How to Make Your Resolutions Stick

by Gerald G. Mannikarote, MBBS MBA

 

It’s 4:36 in the morning, in the third week of the new year.  Do you know where your resolutions are?  What’s happened to them?

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It’s time to get after it
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Is it getting more and more difficult to get to the gym?  Is it getting more and more difficult to read your books?  Is it getting more and more difficult to stay away from the junk food?

Why is it so easy to make resolutions?  But why is it so difficult to stick with them?  It’s as if we make them just to break them.

Tons of media are built around people making resolutions.  Offers to get into new gyms.  Tips on how to eat right.  Pointers on how to sleep better.  Guides on how to save money.  All set around the ‘New Year, New Me’ mentality.

Over the years, I’ve stopped making resolutions.  I’ve realized they are often just lofty ideas.  Pie in the sky dreams.  And as someone once said, a dream without action remains a dream. What I prefer to do now is set goals.

Goal Setting

Goal!
Goal!

I have found that it is easier for me to set goals.  Goals allow me to have a finish line.  It allows me to have an end point.  It allows me turn my dreams into goals with action.

Goal setting allows you to create a defined end point that you want to achieve.  Many people make resolutions like, ‘I will lose weight this year’, ’I’ll eat healthier’, “I’ll sleep more”, or “I’ll save more money this year.”  These are great ideas, but there is no definite end point.  When you set a goal, you know where your end is.  So instead of the resolutions, you could make goals like, “I will lose 10 pounds by the end of the year”, “I will have a serving of steamed vegetables at least 3 times a week”, “I will sleep a minimum of 6 hours a night”, or “I will save at least $10 every week.”  By setting definite end points, you will be able to create a clearer vision of a path to get to your goal.

Action steps

By creating action, we turn our dreams into goals.  And eventually, those dreams can become reality.  Steps towards the goal make it easier to get to an end point.  It also makes it easier to see an end point.  You know your path to your goal.

In order to get to your destination, you need directions.  You get a map and plan out a route.  Or even if you have a GPS, you still are shown a planned path to take.  Coaches for various sports provide a game plan or plays so that the players know where should be or what they should do in order to get to the goal. Kate Byar has a great article on LinkedIn that provides insights on making small strides towards your goal.

Milestones or checkpoints

Milestones help us acknowledge that we are getting closer to our goal.  When you go on a trip and you see mile markers; informing you where you are and how far you’ve gone.  In the same way, when you create milestones, it will help you know where you are on your journey to your goal.

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Checkpoint

Review

Milestones or checkpoints also allow you to review your progress.  Every time you complete a milestone, you should take it as a small victory.  Reward yourself with the knowledge that you are one step closer to your goal.

Rewards

Set up a reward for yourself for hitting your goal.  As you move closer towards your goal, you should envision your reward along with goal.  A great example of this is with body builders.  They work very hard at maintaining nutrition and exercise, but reward themselves with a ‘cheat day’ after attaining certain milestones.

Accountability

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Accountability

Accountability may be tough for most of us.  I know that it is for me.  So I’ve employed accountability partners for me for my goals this year. .  I’ve joined a group of like minded folks.  Though it is online, we keep each other accountable.

You hear all the time, it’s easier to go to the gym with a buddy- you’ll motivate each other.  This is true for other goals as well.  I had a friend that once asked me to hold him accountable for his goal of getting out of debt.  He was very successful and is now happily out of debt.

Making it to the finish line

Once you get to the finish line and you achieve your goal, you will have a great feeling of accomplishment.  You may have even included a great reward at the end.  But after that it is over, you may realize that it was the journey to the goal that drove you.

It’s the journey that keeps all of us going.  It’s the journey that humankind desires.  And it’s the journey that will allow you to go further.  So, once you have achieved your goal, it is time to map out another one!  Because resolutions don’t stick, but our need for a journey, our need to find a path, our need to move forward, is what drives us to goals.

I hope these points help you get closer to sticking with your resolutions, or rather help you get closer to your goals.  What are some other ways that you feel can help you reach your goals?  Please leave your thoughts in the comments.  You can also contact me at jerrydmann@dmanntraining.com

Be A STAR Communicator

Be a STAR Communicator

by Gerald Jerry George, MBBS MBA

Several years ago, I was introduced to something that was intended to help a person with job interviews.  It is called the STAR technique.  I later learned that it can applied as a communication tool in many ways.

In case you aren’t familiar with it, STAR is an acronym for Situation, Task, Action, and Result. I was told that this is a good way to explain how you approached a project discussion during an interview. But I quickly learned that this same technique is a great way to communicate your ideas to others.

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Be a STAR communicator

Let’s break it down…

Situation

When you have an idea, sale, or a project that you want to relay to another person, it’s not enough to impose your thoughts on them and expect something.  By using the STAR technique, you lay the foundation by explaining the situation at hand.  Whether it’s your idea, a sale’s pitch, or a project you are leading, by explaining the situation that needs to be addressed, you much likelier to be understood.

Task

Once you have laid the foundation by communicating the situation, you can now discuss what needs to be done, i.e. the tasks at hand.  This will help communicate what roles and jobs may need to be developed.  By discussing the tasks, it will be easier to communicate what actions and results are expected.  For example, if it is a sale, this helps explain who would benefit from the product or service.  If it is a project you are leading, this will help communicate the various roles that need to be filled.

Action

This communication piece will help you describe the duties needed to be completed in order to be successful.  In a sales situation, this could be the fact that the customer needs to sign on the dotted line.  In a project situation, this would be the actions each member would be taking on in their prescribed roles. If you are pitching an idea to a group, this will tell them what actions need to be completed in respect to the tasks at hand.

Result

This is the bit of communication that people look forward to.  If you are selling something, they want to know what’ in it for them if they made a purchase.  If you are leading a project, then what is the end goal?  If you are pitching an idea, then it simply makes sense to explain the end goal of the project.

I hope you found this twist on STAR intriguing, and even helpful. Have you used the STAR technique before?  What are some ways you have used it?  Please leave your thoughts in the comments.  You can also contact me at jerrydmann@dmanntraining.com . If you’ve liked what you’ve read, please share it with others.  Now go other there and be a STAR!